Happy Juneteenth! I want to take a moment to acknowledge a day that should be a national holiday!
For those that don't know Juneteenth is a celebration that commemorates the emancipation of slavery on June 19, 1865.
But, that's not what this blog post is about. I actually wanted to share a little think piece on alter egos.
By the way I did this photoshoot a while back, I posted a couple of the photos on my IG.
Not sure why i'm just now posting to the blog but here it is. I love this shoot!
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| Photographed by: Kenny (Pink Canarie) |
If you saw my latest youtube video and blog post from Friday then you know I’ve been really into listening to podcasts lately. I started consistently listening last week and I’ve been addicted. So, I was listening to a podcast and they were talking about creating an alter ego to become the success you desire to be and after listening a while I must say that in hindsight I disagree with that strategy. I got to thinking...what happens when you put on a persona and get lost in it?
An alter ego worth mentioning is Beyoncé as Sasha fierce right, this is understood as an artist and performer, I think a lot of people who’ve performed can say that they’ve felt different when on stage, more powerful and confident like you gain superpowers. But we see she never stops being Beyoncé even when she channels Sasha, she just becomes an even more fiercer, sexier and sensual version of herself while performing. Which that is the point of an alter ego, right. The definition of alter ego: a persons secondary or alternative personality. I understand having an alter ego and I can see how
someone could use it to give them the courage to achieve their big goals. But, why can’t the realyou do it? Why can’t the YOU with the name you go by, the name that was given to you at birth be who is courageous, brave, and confident enough to live out your purpose. why does it have to be an “alternative personality” or essentially a person you create that you wish you were or could be.
Another alter ego to mention is Lady Gaga, who is actually what sparked this thought when she was mentioned in the podcast. I feel like a lot of people don’t know Lady Gaga’s real name, we just call her by her stage name or which she made to be her alter ego. We see less costume of what we’ve known Lady Gaga to be and more of Stefani now especially since her role in Star is Born. It just got me thinking I wonder if she ever felt lost in being Lady Gaga if she had a hard time distinguishing between her over the top costumes and the woman we see now with no costume. I actually read somewhere that she actually covered herself up in costume to hide herself because she was insecure of her looks. So, stay with me here...if you can create an alternative personality for yourself to go after your dreams can’t that just be you? Like, the actual you. See, what can happen is you can create this alter ego or a character out of fear and insecurity and eventually get lost in it and wonder who you are in the midst of being someone else.
In another episode of this same podcast (btw it’s called the influencer podcast by Julie Solomon it’s really great you should take a listen!) a different guest said “if I spend a lifetime pretending to be someone that I’m not at what point do I lose who I am?” And that pretty much sums it up.Hope this helps you to be your most authentic self. But, of course if you want to have an alter ego thats definitely cool (if you ask my friends, they’ll say I have one named Chanel lol) but only if you aren’t hiding behind it in fear of showing people the you you. Love and value self first, you don’t want to get lost in trying to love two people. Instead of creating someone else to be, be you and who you are can be courageous, brave, and confident if you choose without giving yourself another identity. I actually just listened to the Garyvee podcast and he said “...my biggest fear in this room is that you're trying to be somebody because you want to be them verses you figure yourself out and put yourself in that position to be that person", WOW.
Another alter ego to mention is Lady Gaga, who is actually what sparked this thought when she was mentioned in the podcast. I feel like a lot of people don’t know Lady Gaga’s real name, we just call her by her stage name or which she made to be her alter ego. We see less costume of what we’ve known Lady Gaga to be and more of Stefani now especially since her role in Star is Born. It just got me thinking I wonder if she ever felt lost in being Lady Gaga if she had a hard time distinguishing between her over the top costumes and the woman we see now with no costume. I actually read somewhere that she actually covered herself up in costume to hide herself because she was insecure of her looks. So, stay with me here...if you can create an alternative personality for yourself to go after your dreams can’t that just be you? Like, the actual you. See, what can happen is you can create this alter ego or a character out of fear and insecurity and eventually get lost in it and wonder who you are in the midst of being someone else.
In another episode of this same podcast (btw it’s called the influencer podcast by Julie Solomon it’s really great you should take a listen!) a different guest said “if I spend a lifetime pretending to be someone that I’m not at what point do I lose who I am?” And that pretty much sums it up.Hope this helps you to be your most authentic self. But, of course if you want to have an alter ego thats definitely cool (if you ask my friends, they’ll say I have one named Chanel lol) but only if you aren’t hiding behind it in fear of showing people the you you. Love and value self first, you don’t want to get lost in trying to love two people. Instead of creating someone else to be, be you and who you are can be courageous, brave, and confident if you choose without giving yourself another identity. I actually just listened to the Garyvee podcast and he said “...my biggest fear in this room is that you're trying to be somebody because you want to be them verses you figure yourself out and put yourself in that position to be that person", WOW.
I love you, mean it.
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